Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

Question

Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
I had a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating on me. So i was looking threw his phone, and i saw naked pictures of a girl that sent it to his phone..i been with him for about three years,,for the past three weeks we been figthing so much. Ive seen numbers that call him late at nite and numbers that he calls also. I ask him about it but all he tells me that he talks to them but has never cheated on me..He says if Im not having sex with them. Then why cant I talk to them. I dont know what i should do? Something tells me to leave him, but then something tells me not to. I need Help?

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Well sweetheart it doesnt sound good. If he isnt cheating on you, which sounds likely, he certainly doesnt respect your feelings. If you have expressed concerns about these other people and his respone is quotIf Im not having sex with them, then I can talk to them.quot then it doesnt sound like he cares if youre secure with this relationship. brbrIts not great to snoop, that is a big sign that relationship is in deep trouble to begin with. The point is not to chastize you, but to say that things had reached the point that you dont believe his denials and were looking for evidence. Unfortunately, you found what you were looking for. No woman sends a man who is quotjust a friendquot naked photos. You know what is really going on here, trust your instincts....you know this situation better than any of us.brbrThe point is what to do now. Sometimes people will know when a relationship is over, but they still arent ready to leave. Emotional attachments can be hard to break, even when you should. There are people who use cheating as a way to end a relationship to make exiting the relationship easier for themselves...that often makes the person who was cheated on worse though. You need to really think what am I prepared to do? Do you want to fess up to your snooping and bust him? Do you want to play along and wait until youve had it emotionally?brbrWhile you might not be ready to move on, I implore you not to embarass yourself. Dont beg this guy to change and stay with you. If it comes to the point that the realtionship is ending, dont disrespect yourself like that, you will regret laterTRUST ME.brbrI feel you should also think about your part in this relationship. It is very possible that this guy is a massive jerk, who is totally taking advantage of you.....but then the question is why does part of you want to stay in that? Why are you ok with being miserable just to keep him around? Take this opporntunity to learn about yourself and grow, so you can be better for you. Then future relationships will be better too! A good counselor is wonderful in helping to sort all this out. brbrGood luck and take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.